“When I was a teenager, I felt like everyone—doctors, teachers, politicians, police, pundits—was trying to control and repress my sexuality. Now that I’m older… I feel like everyone is trying to control and repress teenage sexuality, and I’m collateral damage.
So much of the discourse about birth control, about abortion, about sexually explicit media, about STIs, even about sex ed, assumes that everyone who has sex is a teenager. Should we have subsidized birth control because it’ll prevent teenage pregnancy, or ban it to discourage teenage promiscuity? I don’t know… let me ask my 40-year-old married aunt who uses birth control! Should we allow abortion so girls don’t become teenage mothers? Yo, I can’t afford to become an adult mother!”—The Pervocracy: Not just for kids anymore. (via sexisnottheenemy)
I already knew I loved Claudia, but now I know even more.
"The real meaning of “I’m not like the other girls” is, I think, “I’m not the media’s image of what girls should be.” Well, very, very few of us are. Pop culture wants to tell us that we’re all shallow, backstabbing, appearance-obsessed shopaholics without a thought in our heads beyond cute boys and cuter handbags. It’s a lie – a flat-out lie – and we need to recognize it and say so instead of accepting that judgment as true for other girls, but not for you."
Loved this post. I hate the default in our society that “girly” things are trivial or stupid. And really, nobody is a stereotype. People are complex and multi-dimensional, and that is awesome.
(CNN) — My daughter occasionally goes on a hugging and kissing strike.
She’s 4. Her parents could get a hug or a kiss, but many people who know her cannot, at least right now. And I won’t make her.
“I would like you to hug Grandma, but I won’t make you do it,” I told her recently.
“I don’t have to?” she asked, cuddling up to me at bedtime, confirming the facts to be sure.
No, she doesn’t have to. And just to be clear, there is no passive-aggressive, conditional, manipulative nonsense behind my statement. I mean what I say. She doesn’t have to hug or kiss anyone just because I say so, not even me. I will not override my own child’s currently strong instincts to back off from touching someone who she chooses not to touch.
I figure her body is actually hers, not mine.
It doesn’t belong to her parents, preschool teacher, dance teacher or soccer coach. While she must treat people with respect, she doesn’t have to offer physical affection to please them. And the earlier she learns ownership of herself and responsibility for her body, the better for her.